Use a profile name generator?

It's actually not a very good idea. In this article I'm going to tell you why.

Dating Site Profile Name Examples

The first reason is very simple; the potential for creating attraction by choosing the right nickname for your profile is extremely small. How do I know? Because I’ve researched what really creates attraction on dating sites; if you want to, you can repeat one of my experiments and check the results for yourself. It goes like this: create a female dating profile on a popular site and have female test subjects log onto it. The profile will begin to receive messages from guys. Have the female test subjects tell you who they like, who they don’t like, and why.

You will find that girls work in pretty much the same way you do; they care a lot about pictures. There are other important factors as well, but as for the profile name - think about it, try to reverse the situation in your head. If you look at girl’s profile, how much does the name she’s chosen matter in your overall assessment of her attractiveness? It’s tiny significance is dwarfed by more important things, you say? Yup, that sounds about right.

Looking for the right profile name to help you succeed at online dating is like looking for the right shoelaces to help you run faster.

The second reason is this: When a girl looks at your profile she will immediately start trying to figure you out. She’ll notice little details, she’ll ponder and analyze them, trying to understand what kind of guy you are and what kind of personality you have. If your nickname is "HandsomeDoctor" girls won’t think "Hm, he must be a handsome doctor!"; they’ll think, "Hm, this guy’s really trying to impress, he’s probably compensating for something", or simply, "Wow, what a douche, calling himself HandsomeDoctor!"

There’s at ot of resources out there that want to help you create you profile name; there are automatic generators, and even a WikiHow! But let me show you a quote from it’s list of "good" names:

PRINCECHARMING: This name suggests someone who is a romantic. A woman would likely expect him to arrive on a white horse, wearing a cape (which he would of course remove to lay across a puddle for her to cross without getting her shoes wet).

Seriously, who’s written this?! How stupid do they think girls are?! "Oh, he calls himself Prince Charming... he must be very romantic!" That’s not the way it works! "He calls himself Prince Charming... what a dork!!" is a much more likely reaction.

An here's the problem we need to be aware of: Choosing the right profile name won’t help you much in creating attraction, but choosing the wrong profile name can make you seem less attractive. If you try to use your name to display attractive qualities you’re likely to end up hurting your chances. A lot of the names you’ll find in profile name generators or lists of "good" profile names do exactly this; they scream "I’m overcompensating because I’m not used to girls liking me!" or "I don’t understand basic social rules!"

At its core, online dating is all about creating the right impression without looking like you're trying to impress; most guys end up doing the opposite.

So what should you do instead? Firstly, keep it simple; something neutral that’s easy to remember is good. It can be a real name or something from a book or a movie, whatever, as long as it doesn’t sound like you’re trying to impress someone. It can be a random, meaningless word made from combination of letters in your name. Ggoogle it to make sure it’s really meaningless, though; you don't want to accidentally call yourself "Dung beetle" in Finnish!.

Secondly, spend your time on the things that really matter when it comes to creating attraction on dating sites.

About the author:

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    My name is Sondre and I'm an obsessive guy. I've spent the better part of a decade studying how attraction is kindled by text and images, and through interviews and experiments I have figured out how to create a profile that appeals to exactly the kind of women you want to meet. Through I have helped regular guys get extraordinary results, and now it's finally your turn!

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